Amelia's Nest

Last February 4, 2010 we celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary. This year we didn't prepare any special thing nor plan any trip since we just came back from a vacation. What I did was I made a dinner reservation at a restaurant that was new to us. A colleague of mine suggested to checked out this restaurant located at Dempsey Road at Tanglin Village in Orchard. When I checked the website I found it interesting since this restaurant brew their own beer and wine. You can visit their site here. Two days before the date I placed a reservation and I picked a three-course meal; an appetizer, main course, dessert and a glass of house wine. The person who is taking my order asked what was the occasion and I said it’s our anniversary.

We took a white Limousine-cab (since we don’t have yet a car here), on our way both of us felt excited since the location was new and we don’t know what to expect. Upon arrival at the place we find it romantic since its few meters away from the main city and are very quiet and private. We were welcomed with pleasant smile and greeted us. I felt the service was much personalized and they do focus on the needs and wants of their customer. Of course, I received a bunch of eight-roses; three-white roses and five-lavender roses the day before our anniversary. My husband never fails to give me roses of my favourite. And I love it.

Over-all I am happy with a simple dinner I prepared for the said occasion. My husband did enjoyed it much but we didn’t stayed that long since husband needs to go back to work by 10:00PM. I can call it simple yet meaningful celebration. A celebration of four years of love-patience-and-time.

I’ve been hearing stories of life, love and relationship. Stories that is excruciatingly absurd and ridiculous. I have seen women who are desperately surviving. Surviving in their relationship with boyfriend, husband, kids and what-not. Surviving in a way they trade their happiness for the sake of whatever they know is best. And in a sense sacrificing their freedom. I just couldn’t understand why there are still women who are willing to stay in the situation even if they know they are always on the losing end.

I thought women of today are more empowered and has a strong sense of self-worth. Who will not allow to be treated unequally. Women who will fight for their rights. Is it all because of love? Love for your family? Kids? Partner? I just couldn’t get it. They have a choice to stay-away from that relationship. Leave the relationship if it’s not worth the fight. Am I right? Or am I making sense here.

I am exasperated hearing the similar stories and yet they are still there. Hoping and wishing that everything will be fine. But honestly it will not going to be fine if a person allows things to happen just like that. Bang! That's it. That simple. Allowing your partner to hurt you over and over again without any trace of remorse. Without even discussing what had had happened during, before and after. Living as if nothing really happened. Just forgetting the hurt and the pain caused. Is that what you call love? I know LOVE is a relationship. And relationship is a two-way. But if it becomes one-way can you still call it love? Or are you still in-a-relationship?

And a big question now is, how can you say you love yourself if you allow other people to hurt you?

My three-and-half year old son is now going to school. He started last Wednesday, February 17, 2010 (strange it he started Wednesday, because it was holiday here in Singapore for two days due to Chinese New Year) as Nursery. We enrolled him to a two-hour session which starts by 12:45pm and ends at 2:45pm.

We (me, his dad, his sister and his grandfather) send him to school on his first day and he was very excited. We are all excited actually. Me and hubby stayed in the room for thirty-minutes to condition him and explain to him that he needs to join the other kids and have fun. When we picked him after the school, the teacher says he asked where was his mum and dad and a bit teary but after a while he joined in the class. We didn't find it hard to send Ralph to school there was no even separation-anxiety happened. Everything was so easy. He enjoys every bit of his school. At night he always says to me, "I want to go to school mum". I felt relief since I can feel that he is really enjoying his school. Am so proud of our son. He never fails to amazed and surprise me.

I didn't notice that I was not updating, posting or writing anything in my blog. And obviously I was hibernating for almost two months. I just wish I can write more things here(sigh!). My last post was a new year message and now another new year comes...it's Chinese Lunar New Year, to all Chinese have a happy one!

There are lot of things happened and I wasn't even sharing it here. I hope I can write one each week. Honestly, family life and my career becomes too demanding from day one of this year. But again it's all depends on how I manage my time.

'Til then and thanks for dropping by.